Fisting is my number one favorite penetrative queer lesbian sex move. Putting your whole hand inside of someone, or having her whole hand inside of you, is a physically and emotionally wild experience and a fuckton of fun. Like any lesbian sex act, fisting requires some conversation before you dive in. Fisting is lesbian hand sex at its most intense, so it makes sense for you to prepare. Trim your nails the day before and smooth the edges. If you wear femme claws, glitter polish, or shellac or gels that are anything less than fresh and perfect, plan to wear gloves.
It doesn't come as naturally as the puritans would like to fear. We stumble and fumble and watch dirty movies for tips, but there's a lot to the details that doesn't get talked about. For example: I once had the pleasure of hosting the first hands-on lesbian fist fucking workshop in Seattle, during the inaugural Living In Leather conference. LaMar, a Seattle tattoo artist, promised me a real doctor's exam table.
When I think about fisting, the first thing I think about is that scene in Chasing Amy where she makes a hole with one hand and then shoves a fist through it with the other like, "Ta-da! Actual IRL fisting, however, is not as simple as throwing a fist up someone's vagina or butt , because you pretty much can't do that unless you have an ocean of lube and a super-relaxed vagina and maybe tiny hands. But what do you do instead?